It would be nice if life was a bed of roses, but that just isn’t the reality. Most of us are going to have lots of good times, for sure, but we are also going to go through lots of tough things too. The better prepared we are for them when we come, the easier it will be for us to get through them and back out the other side without too much suffering.
With that in mind, let’s take a look at some things we can all do to help us get through the bad times:
When you are going through something rough, it can be tempting to go through it alone, not wanting to admit life isn’t perfect, or not wanting to trouble anyone unnecessarily. However, there are a bunch of people out there, from doctors and therapists to the local DWI attorney and the local police force, not to mention friends and family, who are there to help us when we need it – ket them.
A problem shared is, after all, a problem halved.
Focus on what you can control
There is no point worrying yourself to death about things you cannot control, so when times are tough, step back from the situation, analyze it, and separate elements you can control from those you cannot. Focus your energies on making positive changes where you can and accept the things that you can do nothing about.
Some of the best advice I’ve even been given was to focus on tackling things ONE piece at a time. It takes some practice, but I’ve become very good and honing in on one task, putting all of my energy into doing that ONE THING to the best of my ability. All while actively choosing to let all other thoughts and stressors “bounce” off me.
Focusing only on the things I can change and am responsible has help me more than I can even convey. This is far better for your mental health, and when you’re in the right place mentally, it is a lot easier to handle a tough situation.
Make time for self-care
No matter whether you’re dealing with a sudden bereavement, an injury that has left you unable to work, or an addiction, amongst other things, it is always important that you take time out to focus on your health. You will be no use to anyone, least of all yourself, if you are stressed out, tired and depressed. So, go to the movies, get your hair done, watch a movie, and do whatever it takes to care for yourself during this time.
You’ll feel so much better if you do.
Learn to meditate
Learning to meditate can also be very useful. It enables you to put distance between you and your thoughts, so no matter how distressed you are, if you take the time to meditate, you can find some peace. Often, you find more clarity when you take this time out too, which is good for helping you get through whatever you are facing more effectively.
Meditation has become a daily practice for me and helps support my mental health and overall wellbeing.
Don’t expect miracles
If you expect miracles to happen and the tough time to vanish by itself, you are only likely to be disappointed, it is much better to stay positive and proactive and tackle those tough life challenges with everything you have. Having realistic expectations and hopes in any situation can help save you unnecessary heartache.
Tough times always come along, but if you are ready for them, and you know what you can do to get through them, they simply will not hurt you as much.