Everyone hopes that their relationship works out for the best. But sometimes breakups happen, and you have to separate with your partner. This is not only emotionally draining but also physically demanding, especially if you have to move out. Evidently, your lifestyle will undergo major adjustments when separating from a live-in partner, but handling the transition doesn’t have to be stressful.
These four tips will help you move out smoothly after a breakup and get your lifestyle back on track.
1. Plan Ahead for Your Move
You know when your marriage or relationship is on the rocks. In normal circumstances, breakups and divorce don’t just fall from the sky –they’re an outcome of wrongdoings from either partner or coming to the realization that you two are not a match made in heaven. Either way, you’ll see it coming, and you should start preparing in advance to move out of your home.
Start by getting all your important documents in order– birth certificates, passports, insurance documents, banking information, property documents, and social security fund. You don’t want any of them to get lost in the moving process, or worse still, your ex-partner to hold them in ransom to settle old scores. Before you get a new house, you can find a safe place to store your important documents and other precious items such as jewelry and fine art. You may also organize for a place to crash in before you get a new place.
2. Make Sure to Inspect Your New Place before You Move In
Having to leave the partner you’ve been living with is an emotional process. You just want to get away as quick as you can and find your own place. This means you may heedlessly overlook some important aspects such as inspecting your new house. But you don’t want to do that, as it may cost you big down the line. To ascertain that the house is in excellent condition, inspect the entire house-floors, roofing, electricity, plumbing, and house interior design. Making even minor repairs to a house you just moved in is costly, given that it costs the U.S. economy more than $9 billion annually to repair pipeline corrosion alone.
3. Prioritize Your Safety: Think About Security
After a breakup, emotions run high and a partner who is normally level-headed may be vengeful and start running amok. At times, things can really get out of hand, more so in an acrimonious separation. You want to ensure that you, your property, and your pets are safe in your new home. Even if your ex-partner may not pose a danger, you want to have tighter security now that you’ll be living alone in a new neighborhood. Prioritizing a house with a modern security system is a good idea. Remember that 50% of home intruders will discontinue a burglary if they discover an alarm, even during impulsive and unplanned burglaries.
4. Set a New Budget in Tune with Your New Lifestyle
After a divorce or separation, you’ll have to reorganize your finances. If you and your partner used to split living expenses, you’ll have to adjust your budget now that you’ll be living alone. In case of a divorce, you must also factor in the alimony costs. The general trend is that the man pays for spousal support, but the new trend is more gender-neutral. In a 2018 survey conducted by Market Watch, 45% of matrimonial attorneys noted an increase in women paying alimony. As such, you should be prepared for any eventuality and align your finances accordingly.
When you divorce or break up with your partner, it’s in your best interest not to continue sharing a roof, let alone a bed. Moving out early will help you settle quickly into your new lifestyle. The above tips will help you make the transition more stress-free.