“Hot Girl Summer” will be a banger. It might be even better as a solo dance.
Beach days, backyard BBQs, and camping trips can be a lot of fun when you’re coupled up. But summer can bring some opportunities to get back out there and strut your stuff. Around 43% of Tennessee residents go through a difficult divorce. Even if you aren’t currently married, it may be time for a fresh start.
It’s never easy to end relationships. But in some cases, it may be necessary. If you’re seeing any one (or more) of these 10 red flags, you might be headed for a summertime breakup. Luckily, there’ll be no shortage of ice cream to get you through.
Feeling Annoyed With Your Partner
The eye rolls are becoming more frequent. You start to feel aggravated when you see their texts pop up on your phone. The quirks you once loved are now a source of frustration. Becoming easily annoyed with your partner usually means that a deeper issue is brewing under the surface. It’s tough when you or your partner constantly feels like nothing is ever good enough. While all relationships have their ups and downs and it’s perfectly reasonable to feel annoyance every once and a while, this shouldn’t be the default setting.
Needing More Space
There isn’t anything wrong with being alone. In fact, it’s important to spend time away from your partner. But how free time is spent can indicate how you’re really feeling about your relationship. If you desire more freedom or are yearning to kick it with your besties, you may be just avoiding your significant other. This is especially true if you feel relieved when they’re busy.
Struggling to Communicate
A withdrawn attitude can really strain communication. If there have been significant changes in your texting or calling patterns with your partner, you may want to pay attention. Longer response times or less frequent exchanges can be telling when there isn’t another obvious cause. However, quality is always better than quantity. Open dialogue builds trust. Without positive, open discussions, the relationship can’t continue.
Listen to that voice screaming in your head telling you your partner is up to something. They may be lying. They may be cheating. Or they may not be doing anything at all. But if you can’t trust them, there’s not much reason to continue. While this can absolutely be an issue you need to work through on your own in therapy, a sudden change in
If the “small stuff” often erupts into a verbal brawl, it may be time to throw in the towel. Picking fights out of nowhere becomes an excuse to bring up past pain or criticize other behaviors. This is the epitome of unhealthy. And if you’re always prepping yourself for the next big argument, are you really enjoying the time you’re spending together?
Failing to Make an Effort
Cleaning the bathroom or doing the dishes is a chore. Relationships shouldn’t be one. If hanging out or going on a date night seems like an obligation, get out. Dating should enhance and add value to your life. When you feel like you can’t get your partner to even meet you halfway or you are struggling to even want to spend time together, it’s obvious that your relationship is in trouble.
Not Spending Quality Time Together
You’re finding that this QT is AWOL. Your boyfriend or girlfriend doesn’t have to do everything with you and they don’t have to love your friends and family. Still, it’s important that they make an effort. Asking your significant others to attend group outings or family functions with you shouldn’t feel like a hassle. If they refuse to participate in these events and you already feel like you’re single when you show up, maybe it’s time to make that status official.
Your urge to “get busy” has bye-bye. Intimacy and affection are key components of stable relationships. Physical touch is its own love language, after all. Without it, you’re likely to feel even more mentally and emotionally distant. While every couple is different, losing that spark can signal something disastrous for your partnership.
You deserve to be a priority. If absent quality time is being slowly replaced with scrolling through social media or playing video games, there’s a problem. It’s totally fine to have your own interests and hobbies. But if you’re being consistently ignored, why bother being in a relationship at all?
No Shared Future
Approximately 61% of men consult with their girlfriend before buying a ring. However, if the mere idea of a proposal sends you into a panic, question why. If your partner doesn’t fit your vision, then it’s time to rethink your future. Disagreeing on major issues like kids, politics, or religion can be a sign it isn’t meant to be. And if your boyfriend or girlfriend has no desire for marriage but it’s a priority for you, it may be time to face the music.
Breaking up is difficult. Changing your relationship status to “single” requires strength (and lots of junk food). In fact, about 13.5% of American adults admit to eating 20 or more chocolate chip cookies in one sitting. Others may prefer ice cream. Pick your poison. Just grab some food (and maybe a couple of drinks) and let the healing begin. There’s no better time to do it than now so that you can fill your time with summer distractions.