One of my fellow Texan Bloggers has opened up a link party all about the mean girls we’ve encountered. It happens to us all. If you’re alive and female you’ve had a mean girl moment or maybe 9(thousand). Why does this happen? Why do we accept it? Why do we pretend to laugh it off while we are secretly dying inside?
There were words said to me when I was a child that 20+ years later I can quote back verbatim. Just thinking about it brings a rush of negative emotions! I’ve mentioned before that I struggled with my weight, self-image and worth from a young age. The fat kid jokes followed me for years and even now occasionally haunt my dreams.
“Call 1-800-Jenny fatty” ~ Random kid in a park.
“Why are you wearing the same dress again? Didn’t you wear that last week and the week before?” ~ the girl I thought was my friend, that I was jealous of my whole childhood
“I’ll give you $10 for every pound you lose in the next 3 months” ~ my grandmother.
Those words scared my soul in ways you’ll never understand. Those words started a downward spiral of self-doubt and rejection, that I still fight to over come.
Even as an adult there are more subtle mean girl moments, that hurt and redefine what I thought were solid friendships. That fact never ceases to amaze and scare me. How are we so accepting of this behavior? When did it become ok to be a Mean Girl as long as there is a smiley face or wink at the end.
I am choosing to recognize the “mean girl” that I have inside myself, and lock her up! I refuse to join the ranks of those that thought they could define me with their small-minded words and actions. I am better than the fat girl that they thought I was. I am better than snarky comments and back stabbing friends. I am better than the judgement they sought to impose on me.
I choose to be different, to spread love, and encourage everyone I can. Will you join me? Lock up your own mean girl and encourage those around you!
I hope you’ll join with those of us writing about our mean girl moments! For more info Check out Michelle’s blog post HERE